Tuesday, September 29, 2009

Discussion #1 Weight Management


In trying to boost the interactive element here, each week we'll have a Tuesday and Discussion topic. Today, I touch on an issue that I think women on average face, that of weight management-gain or loss. So let us know, Are you trying to lose or gain weight? Are you meeting your target? What does or does not work for you? Fire off your feedback and at the end of the week, we'll invite a professional dietitian to provide feedback on what you need to do to make weight management work for you.

Wednesday, September 16, 2009

Bridging the Gap...Help Raise Funds for Local Autism foundation

At a time when more and more persons are recognising the importance of education in all its form, it becomes more than crucial for parents/guardians to identify the challenges their children face and how to help them overcome these, so they can in turn reap success. Sadly, for some parents this 'identification process' is more complex. such is the case when a child faces a learning disorder such as Autism.

Autism is defined by psychologists as a "Neurodevelopmental brain development disorder characterized by impaired "Social interaction" and "Communication", and by restricted and repetitive behavior. These signs all begin before a child is three years old. Autism involves many parts of the Human brain; how this occurs is not well understood. The two other Autism spectrum disorder(ASD) are Asperger syndrome, which lacks delays in cognitive development and language, and PDD-NOS, diagnosed when full criteria for the other two disorders are not met.[3]

It may sound like a lot to process, but fortunately, here in Jamaica we have the Maia Chung Autism and Disabilities Foundation, which works along with parents whose kids are affected by autism and other disabilities. Through this foundation, there has been a significant increase in awareness levels of what autism is and how to help a loved one affected by it to succeed in all their endeavors. The task however is not an easy one.

With the new school term on us and changing governmental allocations, much of the education sector's much needed funds have been reduced. This reduction will now mean that many special needs kids may not be able to remain in school. This is confirmed by the Maia Chung Autism and disabilities foundation which has been receiving continued calls that many special needs children will be the casualties of the Jamaican economic meltdown. Sad I know, but like the proverbial "behind every dark cloud, there is a silver lining", hope has arisen from a seemingly hopeless situation. But the best thing of all is that you our readers and your family, coworker and friends can play your part by making yet another special needs child remain in school.

It is simple really. The Maia Chung Autism and Disabilities Foundation is asking for a donation of any amount for the DVD Maia and Quinn an Autism tale. This tale outlines when Maia first told Jamaica about her struggles with Autism. It was this "confession" which led her to start the Foundation. This fundraiser is a new and ongoing project which with your support, will help as many special needs kids as possible to stay in school.

So I implore you all to support this initiative, knowing that you will help someone in dire need with the added bonus of getting a product and the satisfaction that accrues from helping your fellow Jamaican (s).

Interested persons can call 876-578-3079 or email mcautismfoundation@mail.org or jamaicanmommies@gmail.com to order DVDs or provide other forms of assistance.

Come on guys! Let us do this-Together we can truly shout "Yes We Can"

I also implore you to check out the video below to see Maia share her experience with Jamaica about what it is like having an autistic child. For more information on autism you can visit The National Institute of Neuirological disorders' website.

Monday, September 14, 2009

Happy Anniversary to Us and We are that Family induction



Good Morning all! Today is indeed a great day. Just diverting a bit from my usual content to let you know that yesterday I celebrated an even greater day- My first anniversary!! Three Cheers for the lovely Mr. and Mrs. Coombs.

We had two days of fun (including days with our little pookie bear and nights without)- Sweet right!

So I truly feel blessed having made the one year mark, with no love lost. I remember clearly my favourite quote since being married " From this day forward I will not walk alone, my arms will be your shelter and my heart will be your home" So here's to a blessed day, one down and here's hoping and praying for many more to come.

Coincidentally, My blog was featured on We are that Family.com, so go on over here and find out why We (my family and I) are a part of THAT society's family tree.

Cheers!
Jamaican Mommy

Thursday, September 10, 2009

The Real deal on what to do once baby arrives



So your baby is finally here. Now what? If you are anything like millions of mothers before, you would be asking this question. You are still shaky knowing that you have another life to actually take care of and also empowered that you have made it thus far, but then you can't help but have feelings of inadequacy sink in. Will I be a good mother? How will I manage? Am I doing this right? and the list goes on. But as any new mother-turned pro can attest, all is not lost and before you know it, all the mommy related things that once seemed impossible now become second nature. I know right? you've heard that before, but reassuringly it is the truth. I am living proof having moved from one who could hardly change a diaper to a loving, devoted, 'super' mom.

So first off, you will have your granny telling you what not to do, then there's your mother saying her strategies are tried and true and there's also the friend across the street who also swears by 'putting a little rum' in the baby's feed. Sounds familiar? sure it does, but before you get to finding this to be a jocular manner, think very carefully about what will or will not harm your baby and bear in mind that not everything that your mother, aunty, grandma or neighbours swear by is even safe for your little one.

We will definately do a piece on baby and childcare myths, but today we look at how to deal with some of the life changing and not so life changing experiences once baby arrives. I've compiled a basic list which I think embodies most of the major elements, but I do welcome feedback and be sure to add some of your proven strategies too.

1. First of all, you need to believe that you can do this: It might sound cliche but it works! Conditioning one's mind for the challenge and reward of raising a child certainly makes one more optimistic for the task at hand. But remember that no matter the enthusiasm, if you are having significant problems coping and feel like you are at wits end or will somehow harm your child, be sure to schedule a doctor's appointment ASAP since you may be experiencing Post Partum Depression (PPD). See other signs of PPD here

2. You need to educate yourself: Having a child involves so much re-education. This re-education goes beyond reading information in a book, but goes on to include lots of self research, getting multiple feedback and busting some of the many myths affiliated with childcare. For example, I have always heard family members in Jamaica ask if I'm not 'stretching' the baby so that she can grow. Not only is this a totally irrelevant exercise, but my research has also indicated that this practice can be very dangerous. Imagine holding your precious bundle by the leg and then the unfathomable broken limb occurs! Medical professionals have also reiterated the necessity for this practice to be discontinued since a child needs no help in being stretched, since babies stretch on their own, especially after waking up. There are also countless misconceptions related to feeding a child so that he/she can be 'fattened'. Do the research and you will see that many of these practices are quite harmful for the baby's digestive tract.

3. Be careful of who you get information from: Enough Said!

4. Use your motherly instinct: This is almost always right and if you are still unsure, you can get feedback from a qualified and/or genuine person.


5. Know that it is ok to leave some tasks undone:
You may to be used to being the ultimate multitask-er, but with the toll that pregnancy and childbirth has taken on your body, you will need all the rest you can get. Try to delay some tasks and seek assistance with others. After all, taking care of a baby is already a full day's work.

6. Remember it is ok to cry: It is! whoever said big girls don't cry does not acknowledge the cleansing effect that crying can have on a weary soul.

7. It is ok to think you are not getting it right! but refer to point 1 above, keep the optimism going and before you know it, you'll be well on your way.

8. In all you do, make sure it is for the benefit of the child and not so much your own selfish agenda: Remember that bit about putting a little rum (alcoholic beverage) in your baby's feed so he/she can go asleep? That is definately a selfish and potentially fatal move. I know it irks you when there's a screaming child who goes on for hours, but eventually it will pass.

9. Try to get some ME time: How is this possible you ask? check here. I know you love your newborn and want to spend every waking moment, but believe me, somewhere along the way, especially if you're a Stay at home mom, you want to just get out and feel like somewhere inside the 'individual' still exists. It's fine really, no need to feel like you are being selfish. Make proper arrangements for your child's care and go for a walk, a jog, meet with friends for a chat and you'll be surprised how re-energized you feel. If you can't bear to leave your little love bud alone, take him or her for a short walk, go to the mall and window shop or meet your pals for a lunch date with Little one by your side.

10. Enjoy being a mother: I know you're already thinking "Oh that's easy" but when the going gets tough and you sometimes feel knocked out and down, a large dosage of enjoyment mixed with a side order of love can be just what mothers need.

Baby Fit also has some other tips here

So there you have it! your mother-to mother guide on some of the tips that will get you through what seems like endless days..and nights! when you are a new mother.

For those once amateur-now turned pro moms, be sure to share some of the things that seemed so challenging but are now a breeze. New mommies, also share your challenges and I'm sure we can help you with real life tips on how to surpass these.

Take Care!

Friday, September 4, 2009

One on One with Maia Chung: Jamaican Celeb Mom #2


We know her as the previous Anchor Woman on CVM's News Spot. More recently, she has continued to make her Mark as an advocate for persons with disabilities via The Maia Chung Autism and Disabilities Foundation. Through this medium, she offers people with hope; hope that they are not defined by their disabilities and hope that with life, endless possibilities are still available. Maia is one who has made public, emotional displays as it relates to her child being autistic and beyond all her efforts we see a strong and ultimately empowered woman. In her we also find a role model mother who lives to see her children happy and successful. She brings to the fore that hint of motherhood mixed with determination, hence making her worthy of being emulated. She has so much to share and we'll be sure to keep you updated with a more in depth interview, but for today enjoy these 10 questions with woman dynamo Maia Chung, our Jamaican Celeb mom
Name:Maia Chung-Smith
Job title:News Manager Newstalk 93 FM – Managing Director/Founder The Maia Chung Autism and Disabilities Foundation
Number of Kids: 3 boys Wickham Junor Smith- Ardenne High Cinquain Raphael Smith – Wolmers High Quinn Garren James Smith Promise Learning Centre

1. How do you manage being a professional mom? Lol …lawd …how do I manage? God has blessed me he holds my hand all the way everyday he helps me to do the following … I segment my tasks -plus organize: simply put when I am on a task I blank my mind to anything else so that I can perform at my best for that thing e.g. when I am bathing my youngest I am totally plugged into that moment nothing else matters and I consciously gear my thoughts to enjoying everything I do.
I organize by put in place support systems that enable me have my cake and eat it – so I have a housekeeper so when I beat the late hours work or partying when I come home I can just chill with the boys for hours chatting playing …

2. Are there ever clashes with work and family time? How do you handle this? There are always clashes lol my day would be someone else’s day if I never had a clash …how I handle this …NOTHING COMES BEFORE MY BLOOD (family) so there is no choice if I have to do something for the boys which is imperative versus work BOYS FIRST ask my friends they will tell you say “chung-fah we step off if anything wrong with har yute dem” - lol


3. What are some of the techniques you use to ensure that you have enough time with the fam?
Me and my husband split the work –tag team we hire help and our extended families are good people they help us when we need it …My grandmother Roselyn Blake lives at my house and she is like the supe when me and my husband are not there...


4. Favourite Family place/Activity? Sunset Jamaica Grande
Favourite family activity all of us lying by the pool or beach there
5. Proven Disciplinary strategy? Proven is hard ….I try various things like denial of privileges, when they were younger they got spanked and I try to be very rigid in my behavior as it relates to discipline broken down that means if you give a report I don’t like and I know you can do better I will take away your game system privileges for the following term and I don’t back down “you coulda bawl blood” – it’s like the honour system they see mommy is a woman of her word and it works because if I utter the words it shall be done …so they behave so they can have a comfy existence

6. Fave thing about being a mom?
MY FAVOURITE THING ABOUT BEING A MOM ARE MY SONS I LOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOVE THEM I THANK GOD EVERYDAY NIGHT MINUTE HE GAVE ME THEM THEY ARE FUN SMART AND NO MATTER WHAT I HAVE TO FACE JOKING AROUND WITH THEM AND WATCHING THEM DEVELOP INTO GOOD MEN IS SO FULFILLING …in fact me and my friend Nicole Hayles-McGowan both agreed while at CVM we would be happy being housewives raisng many babies with our partners….sigh
7. What are your major challenges as a mom?
My major challenge as a mom is I always and I am not kidding feel as if I am not doing it right …I feel like I am at GSAT and there is a question that is tricky and I misinterpreted it…I feel that day every minute everyday in fact honestly I wonder all the time “Lord am I a good parent” in my daily affirmations “God help me be a good parent to your children”


8. Most rewarding experience as a parent to date?
I feel embarrassed but I’m gonna tell the truth and shame the devil I say to my husband all the time “me feel good say them still with us…it sound a little morbid but the fact that with God’s help I gave birth and I haven’t done anything that has maimed them they are functioning in their right respect and they can read and know how to take the bus and use computers is THE BIG AWARD!!!”


9. What parent/child related development would you most like to see in Jamaica?
Well coz of how I was grown I took it for granted that other kids had it like me, from a very early age I was given the space to exercise my own understanding /choice naturally within reason so at age 7 me and my mom Jeanette Gordon would go to Pablo’s for cloth to make dresses I got the choice within reason to choose my fabric – what parent child development needs now is parents teaching their children to respect themselves by showing the children that they the parents respect them and their thoughts feelings concerns, it engenders confidence in the child – I gather many parents have an attitude that you have no sense so do what I want you to do. If you are raising a child in the way he ought to go you the parent has to gauge when room is needed for them to exercise your teachings adding their individualized God given angle to it…

10. What advice do you have for other moms?
Tell your children every day even when they are tots that you love them …then ask them when they can answer “you know why?”…and when they say “why ? “ - Tell them because you are great person…never let them believe you love them because they are pretty smart handsome athletic or any other conditionality …I was always sure that my parents loved me whether I was ugly smelly and that made me oblivious to what others thought of me coz you dun know my people dem and God rate me raeeeeeeeeeee!!!!! That confidence that I was a valuable part of God’s creation just because I existed and because I could do magic trick, feeds my belief to this day that anything in God’s world that I want I can get ….



Bonus Question: What advice do you have for moms who face greater challengers than the average? How can one deal with any disability?
Mom’s when life is hard walk closely with the Lord without GOD as the nucleus of everything I do (and I am no angel only Christ was perfect) I could not cope this is a literal belief I have there is a GOD and I know that he walks me through everything and I KNOW he loves me like he does everybody…my confidence in that love helps me be at peace because he is in control and I can relax no matter how ugly the situation looks because HE will take care of me and to date that has been happening and everyday it manifests mores
More tangible coping skills get counseling for things that bother you emotionally
Ask for help when you need it
Don’t be ashamed of having ugly parts in your life think about everyone you know now and realize real life is about pretty and ugly parts – when you truly believe this you worry a lot less

There you have it. One on one with Maia. In this single piece I've found so many words of wisdom and I'm sure you our readers will too. As always, please leave your comments and show love to such a lovely Jamaican Mommy. Also be sure to tune in to Nationwide News each Tuesday night at 10:30 p.m. for her programme.
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